For a long time, I didn’t realize how much of my style was shaped by other people’s expectations. Not always through criticism, but through the quiet rules that seem to exist everywhere. What’s “age appropriate.” What’s “in style.” What you’re supposed to wear depending on where you are in life. Somewhere along the way, those rules start to feel normal. You stop asking yourself what you actually like, and you start asking what makes the most sense to everyone else. But over t
